Originally Posted by
doggonecarl 
If your relationship with your fiancee can't survive the removal of alcohol from it, its not much of a relationship...IMO. Here's another thought. Look at how you describe your relationship with alcohol:
"our socializing revolved around friends and dining and drinking"
"Wine was a huge part of our lives"
"the center piece of our lives is now missing"
You talk about wine with more glowing terms than you do your fiancée. Could your alcoholic mind be romancing the booze a little too much? Seems like a strategy to slip out of recovery if you aren't careful.
Good luck.
Actually, I was sharing facts rather than romanticizing wine, or looking for an excuse to drink again. And it is, indeed, a fact that there is a 'hole' in terms of what we will do within the context of our relationship to replace it. To say that it isn't there, to me, is dishonest, and THAT to me, is more of a danger than recognizing something that is right in front of my face.
I was wondering if others had faced similar situations (which it appears to be the case), and how that has gone with others.