Hi Fallingtears and welcome to the F&F forum. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad and you're BF. As Lillamy and Uncertainty said, now is the time to be gentle on yourself and concentrate on you. Easier said than done...I know. You're grieving and it's going to be one day at a time. It's not nice when someone dumps you when they should be supporting you at a time like this. The problem is, your boy friend's drinking has become his first priority in life and that's not your fault. My ex alcoholic defacto went off the wagon two days after I attended the funeral of a close friend's 15 year old son who died suddenly. He wasn't there to support me either. Instead, it all became about him again...As Lillamy said, You didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it.
Maybe when you're over some of the shock, AA may be helpful to you as well as Al-Anon and even ACoA if you're a child of an alcoholic. There will be much support on this forum fallingtears. Keep reading and posting. Take care...
