My A was honest with me early on about his alcoholism and was in recovery, attending AA etc. I knew nothing whatsoever about the disease and had no frame of reference regarding how to be the partner of an alcoholic/recovering alcoholic.
My A relapsed approximately 3 months into our relationship. I have no idea why (but of course he kinda blamed me). It was crazy and he behaved crazily. I remember thinking I should get out of this thing, but I didn't. I should have started arming myself with information about the disease right there and then, I probably would have saved myself alot of heartache and trouble, but I didn't. I had my eyes wide shut.
If there was one piece of advice I would give it is this.. read, talk, learn about the disease/recovery etc. Make informed decisions. If I could go back to the earlier me, that is what I would tell me.
Tx