yeah it was the secrecy part that bugged me the most. Its the reason i decided not to cancel my own plans and to focus on myself this weekend. He wouldnt give me an answer at first about the secrecy, im 99% sure theres not another girl. It annoyed me when he said its cos he doesnt want people interfering and being nosey which i guess i can understand. But it annoys me cos he didnt care before when he was telling people details about our relationship, so whys he so bothered if they know we've met up? ! He didnt even want us mum knowing we'd met up, he thought it might "confuse her" and make her jump to conclusions. I was very close to her. I made sure he knew the aim of the meeting wasnt to get back together. I could never get back together until he sorted himself out. He said he wanted to meet up to "see how we got on and to chat about things now we've both had time to calm down"