Originally Posted by
hwsm 
Like I said earlier; I never had the courage to give him an ultimatum because deep down, I knew that his choice would not be me and I was not ready to accept that. I still have trouble accepting it even though I know it is the best thing for me.
So that's what led me here; searching for answers; trying to make some sense of it all.
I know you don't feel very lucky right now, but from my perspective you are. I STILL - after 14 years - did not give him that ultimatum, because I too knew the answer that I didn't want to hear. I threatened to leave - hundreds of times but not for the drinking. For the abuse that came with it. I didn't follow through. It's all about the alcoholic and his/her disease. The elephant in the room eventually became so large and loud that it squeezed me right out of my own existence.
Hang tough and you'll make it!