You asked whether it's normal because you don't know what normal is. No. It isn't normal.
Having said that, I had to learn the hard way that the question isn't what's normal. The question is what is acceptable to you in your life. Those behaviors would not be acceptable to me. Especially not the verbal abuse. I have been there and I can never go back. the disregarding all your desires is not really acceptable either, is it?
Is he in Recovery or has he just stopped drinking?