Originally Posted by
gerryP 
Stella you may feel ready and as much as you have the right to decide that, it's also his right to decide for himself what he is comfortable with pursuing.
gerry, I appreciate your last post, and that is where my own thinking had taken me. But THIS?
caused me to change my whole opinion of the situation. He was pushing for honest communication, I gave it to him. He did the same for me.
then I thought "I was honest and where did it get me?"
instead of "I was honest, he was honest, with open communication, you can both decide if THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT."
