At 4 months I was coming home from a 45 day stint drying out and going to meetings. Withdrawn and drinking coffee, listening to wise souls in meetings telling and showing how to stay sober. Almost 2 years later I'm so much more alert and feeling in tune and grounded. My kids and their Mom are 100% better, doing better in school and sports and much happier. Doing a lot better at work. Bosses definitely notice. I came out of the alcohol haze after about 6 months. My appearance improved. Lost weight and got color back. Way more mentally alert from better diet and sleep. So much anxiety is gone because you take care of stuff thats weighing on you with help from AA people. The thing is, it takes time. You cant rush it. Its what I hear some say is the 'process'. Its working for me. Haven't drank in almost two years. I'm living proof and a skeptic. lol Got to show me.
he basically told me it's because I'm selfish and too consumed with myself.
You almost have to be selfish and all consumed to make AA and sobriety work. They told me to change people, places and things. That's the definition of selfishness. But its a self preservation, desperate selfishness. Way better then the selfishness of drinking!