twinkle, thank you for sharing. Your story reminds me a great bit of me and the relationship I found myself in during my late twenties. That was when I discovered AlAnon. I got into Recovery as a direct result of being in a serious, live-in relationship with an alcoholic addict who "cheated" on me. I was so devastated my world fell completely apart. At the time I felt it was the worst thing that could happen to me. But soon after I realized it was the best thing to ever happened to me. Because by the grace of God I found my way into AlAnon and began to learn who I really was. I learned that there is a phrase to describe me: I am an adult child of an alcoholic (ACOA). And with that designation comes a whole lot of characteristics I share in common with so many other ACOAs. We are a special kind of people with our own gifts and our own challenges.
I am glad you have come here to SR and have posted your story.