I recently told a friend "We are ALL f*$ked up. Every one of us in this world." Even a couple I know who seems to have a wonderful, loving relationship and tons of money to enjoy it has control issues. He is a work-a-holic and she shops like crazy and even though they are kind and sweet to each other...they have issues.
I have been lucky enough to have affectionate, fun and loving relationships with the last two men I've been involved with. I think a lot of people looked at us and thought "I so wish I had that" But you know what, they really didn't. I guarantee it.