Welcome to the SR family!
Pull out the keyboard and make yourself at home. You will find information and support for yourself here.
I am sorry about your dad's health and alcoholism. There are lots of decisions to be made and everyone has an opinion.
Do you need to have all the answers by 3 p.m. today?
No? Then take a few deep breaths and do the next right thing for today.
That advice was given to me by a fellow Alanon member. I was faced with so many decisions about my future with my alcoholic, that I was making myself crazy. I was reminded to stay in the moment and wait for the answers.
It was difficult, but it was also very helpful. After I learned to be patient, I found that more options and information will become apparent.
I learned about patience, options and taking care of myself in the midst of alcoholic chaos through this website, through Alanon meetings and through self-improvement materials.
There are some very helpful postings in the permenent (sticky) posts at the top of this forum. Some of our stories are there and tons of wisdom.
Here is one of my favorites:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
Let us know how we can help you