Accepting my family of origin was a big one Def. It is not that I ever blamed, but when my eyes were opened to how I got where I was it was shocking to me. I thought I had been making decisions, when all along I had been reacting. Accepting my family was not a problem...deep down I knew I could not go back and change it. But the realization, for me, was life changing.
Accepting life on life's terms, like Gabe said, is what I have to do. Otherwise I am fighting everything that comes my way. It is much more calming to know that it is what it is and that crying and suffering over it is a choice not a requirement.
JT