I found that when my AH was so sick in the hospital ... I had no friend that I felt I could call on. My parents supported me and I called a work related friend that was a RA (sober for 8+ years) and he connected me with his wife.
I forgot how to have friends - I still believe I had to learn it again ... as odd as it sounds. I'm with you about sensless chatting from nagging wives, etc. I find that the majority of them are talkers and not listeners!
When I was "open" to making new good friends ... they started showing up over time and they are my lifeline now.
And I have my SR support too
