Tuffgirl asked,
Do they (our A spouses/family/friends) resent us for being able to drink normally when they can't? Is that normal, especially during early recovery?
pretty much : yes.
but an alcoholic doesn't know what 'normal' is.
I grew up fielding the world from my sister's alcoholism.
(I'm a menopause baby my 'sister' is twenty years older than me)
I knew
from years of driving her back and forth to meetings
that I was also probably an alcoholic.
because I sure as hell had the personality.
SO I , for the most part -
stayed away from booze.
I experimented with drugs
(hell it was the seventies everyone did)
but the mjinute something felt like a 'need'
or that it was over done
or I just flat out liked it way too much
I quit.
I didn't start drinking like the alcoholic I am
until I was 42 years old.
There's even a story in the BB of AA that talks about
an example of an alcoholic like me.
Today -
after four years,
a LOT of aa
with a tad of alanon on the side
I only occasionally even 'think' about a drink.
And that is usually when I'm far too tired.
But -
I USED to be one of those
who 'didn't like' alcohol
and only drank one drink
the whole night
while everyone around me
drank themselves into oblivion.
I think that's why it's such an insidious substance.
(heh. say that five times fast)
hope that helps?