Cyranoak, I'm right there with you, only it's my alcoholic son and he's NOT in recovery. I scan texts and fb looking for signs of drunkiness. I ask my 22 y.o. what he sounded like when they spoke. He's not talking to me cause I tossed him out of the house, but that doesn't stop me. I'm running the 3 C's in my head over and over and reviewing MY 12 steps.
This monitoring is mentally exhausting. The worry is exhausting. So my goal for today is to enjoy the day using my 3C's. And my son can enjoy his day however he sees fit.