For me it was being a mom. I had no clue how drugs could haul a person in and hang on. When my councelor told me I was co=dependant, I had no clue what that was...really~~stupid me. But then we got to the bottom of why I was co-dependent and it made so much sense. Today i'm walking away from my sons third relapse and letting him handle it alone. This whole thing is tough and along the way you will find answers......