Steppingup,
Thanks for the three C's. For the most part she says that her reasons for drinking are my fault. We had some fairly serious marital problems about five years ago. We went to counseling for a long time. I was accused of a lot of stuff I never did. My fault was that I was too passive and didn't stand up for myself. For a time she would turn into Mrs Hyde or worse, but that seems to have gotten better the last six months or so. She is the only one that doesnt see her problem. The kids all see it. Thankfully they are all older now and are self sufficient. She has never driven after she has been drinking, is a great cook and a lot of fun to be with until about 7:00pm. I guess you would call her functional.