I agree with StarCat. I live in a small town also. I have complete confidence that the things we say in meetings stay there. This forum and AlAnon saved my life. I put off going for a long time and when I did I wished I had started years earlier. It's the very best thing you can do for yourself. Like StarCat said...you don't have to say a word unless you feel like it. For me it was very therapeutic to be have a place to talk about what I was going through with others who understood.