Thanks Ginger. That really helped actually... I haven't heard it explained like that. I am currently in therapy, but I have yet to bring this up as I have been focused on other things...
@ Kilt - The problem with that idea is I feel like I would just be pushing that person away and that wouldn't suit their OWN needs... you know what I'm saying? I feel like if I tell them, "You know what, we just need to talk less cause I feel smothered" that I'd hurt their feelings and they'd feel like I didn't want to be their friend, even though that's not the case at all. I feel like I have to tread carefully, ESPECIALLY when it comes to girlfriends.