I'm right there with you, brother. My wife has been alcohol dependent for around 10 yrs. and while not knowing it, I think I practiced the l.o.v.e. method for the last 6-8 when her drinking really got out of control. Thing finally came to a head over Christmas and ended up with her entering detox as the first step of her 30-day inpatient recovery program on 12/29/10.