I would ask you to ask yourself why it is so important to you to be able to have alcohol in your home with a recovering A? Perhaps it isn't important. Then, what is the big deal? You can drink at other venues. Your boyfriend's home should be a safe haven free from temptations & triggers. I would side with your boyfriend on this. Recovery takes serious commitment. It affects family & friends of the A as well. I commend your boyfriend. Alcoholism can lead to insanity and death. Your boyfriend not drinking is about him saving his mind, body & soul! It doesn't seem you are ready to live together, if ever.