I am sorry that you are hurting.
My ex A didnt have any "unusual" sexual hang ups while we were together...... BUT ...........because of all of his drug use he couldnt perform well and didnt have much desire to make love.
This hurt beyond belief. I am a very passionate woman and this KILLED my self esteem. I feel your pain. EVERY person wants to feel desired. I am so sorry.
Big Hugs
Michelle