(((Jay))) - I was always the clingy one...totally, 100% codie. However, since I've been in recovery, I've noticed I feel similar feelings. I'm not in a relationship, but when someone gets too close (IRL), I back off. I don't know if I'm afraid of being hurt, again, or if I'm feeling smothered (or a combination of both).
I don't have any answers. You ARE independent, I'm trying to get back to being that way, but just wanted you to know you're not alone.
Love, hugs, and prayers,
Amy