like kindeyes i certainly cannot tell you what to do but i do know that giving an addict anything that enables them to continue the addiction is not helpful - i did way too much of that - as subtle as it was - for my AS - and all that came of it was that his addiction progressed and mine did too - the only peace either one of us has found came after i turned him over to God - my son was arrested 24 hours after i gave him up to God completely - he is safe and sober and is getting lots of time to think and plan for a better life - by his own admission death was the only alternative to his arrest since he could not seem to get himself into rehab any other way - it is a scary thing to let him go but it is also a scary thing to help them continue their addiction- prayers for you as you decide what to do for your son -