DesertEyes

Hello liveagain, and welcome to SoberRecovery

wow, that must have been a horror for you. I can't imagine how difficult that must have been.

well of course, nobody wants to see an addiction strike someone they love. Especially after what you went thru with your brother.

That's ok. You don't have to explain your feelings to _us_. We have all lived with additction of one sort or another in our parents, so we totally understand.

well, there is actually a _lot_ you can do. It's just not the things you would normally think of.

First, you need to educate yourself about the disease of alcoholism and how it works. You can start in the forum "next door":

Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

There is a ton of good information in the "sticky posts" at the top. Start with this one:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html

Also, visit a few meetings of Al-anon. They have a wonderful set of books and pamphlets that are packed full of information.

How to find a meeting in the US/Canada/Puerto Rico

While you are doing all of that be on the lookout for these "concepts": Boundaries, consequnces and intervention. The meaning of these words is very different in real life than what you get from watching TV or in other forms of media. The purpose of all that "education" I suggest is to allow you to understand how to "Set boundaries", "manage consequences" and "plan and intervention". The result of which will be a set of strategies to help you deal with your father's disease and, hopefully, a chance for him to get some kind of recovery program to help him quit the addiction.

Feel free to post here or in the forum next door, and ask any questions you want. That's the whole reason SoberRecovery exists.

Mike