Lunaaa
Checking up on the A's in our life is another way that we inflict pain upon ourselves. It's something we have all done (or still do) and it brings us nothing but pain and anxiety. Remembering that we don't control the A and can only control ourselves is an imperative for our own recovery.
Time will help the obsessive thoughts and actions ease up but we can speed that process up when we make it a very conscious effort. Just as the recovering addict has to fight the urges to pick up and use........we need to fight the urges to check up on them. The impulses are the same. It is addiction either way.
You can't control him. He's going to do what he's going to do and there's not a darn thing you can do about it. But you do have the power to control "you"......that power resides in you.
gentle hugs