Originally Posted by
reefbreakbda 
Thanks Guys, KittyP, I agree, there has to be something to aim for.
As long as that's honestly what you want too (which it does seem to be). If you did feel like your marriage was over one way or the other I wouldn't advocate lying in order to give her something to aim for. I just think that as long as you are being honest to yourself about what you want and need, then there is no reason you can't be honest with her too.
I hope that this can all work out for you. Does this rehab have a follow up programme?