hi FL -
I don't know about never caring what others thing
but I know that with work and change
you can get to a place where it's far less important.
Are you in a program of recovery or couseling of some sort?
A support circle of individuals
who are working together to improve
their choices and actions
is a great way to get
the positive reinforcement we need
when changing major life patterns.
I mentioned counseling because
a disentangled third party
also can help us see
what maybe we're not willing to see.
I'm a four - tour veteran of marriage.
I know that were I to make a life decision
regarding a man again ...
I would get an outside opinion -
even with what I know about myself now....
which is a lot.
But that's just me.