keithurbanfan, I think the first step with you and your spouse is to have a long talk about this issue on hand. Make sure you mean business and you want him/her to change too. That means if you can't handle alcohol in the house then tell your spouse to not have in there. A lot of times spouse don't want to have an addiction spouse because it means that they have to change their way of life or have to see that bad part of the spouse. So, talk things with the spouse and if they really care about you then they will support the changes.