Hi Newlywed
I've got a question for you
I think my Husband has a drinking problem
do you still "think" he has a drinking problem? Based solely on your description here, I'd say he's got a very serious drinking problem.
I say this because some folks, like myself, have a tendency to shift into denial-to deny reality when it comes to alcoholism.
Why did he think he could bond with your dad if he was drunk? Is your father an alcoholic?
I ask this also because I came from an alcoholic home and it hard wired me to pick folks who abuse alcohol, lie about it, mistreat me and my upbringing taught me how to deny those things, blame myself and keep trying to fix someone else-when all I really have control over is myself.
I'm glad you're here. I hope you find some Al-anon meetings to go to