Thank you for your response NYCDoglvr! My husband knows that he is the problem and that if he doesn't get better, it's all over. He is actively working "in" the AA program and not "around" it. Right now I feel like I need to give this a chance. So we go one day at a time. My sister knows about the situation and feels the only answer is to get out and so now she won't talk to me and she hates my husband. I am scared that she is going to tell my mother and then she will have the same feelings, and it will be me choosing between my husband and them. Ughh! So hard!!