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it's ok. really. you obsessed and you recognized it. you may do it again. and then again. but in between those times, there will be moments when you will realize you didn't act on it and you will feel good about it. it took me months to finally stop obsessing, to stop driving around looking for her, to stop contacting the people i knew she may be in contact with, and to sto plooking for every little sign. i still love her and think about her a lot, but i made it one step, only through the grace of time, to where the obsession has less of a hold on me. it's hard. very very hard, but try to learn from each day and dont beat yourself up for not being perfect. some people ca nturn a switch and be done with their partner, others need to go through a loooong grieving and rebuilding process. hang in there and you will get where you need to be.