Hello jenkoj. Welcome to SR.
I'm so glad you found us; as you await more responses you might want to take a peek at our sticky section for some helpful resources and some especially helpful threads.
In addition to come here to SR I've found Al-Anon to be a great source of f2f support.
It's nice to meet you; please don't forget that you aren't facing this alone. There are many others here who care who share what works for them.