FindingPeace:
I had a very hard time letting go of my exbf. Although not married, I really thought he was the love of my life, despite the lies, drinking and manipulation. I hung on for a little over a year after I broke up with him when I was "negotiating" with him how much I would settle for and how much he would give, which, on his end, turned out to be a tiny bit more than nothing. There was a bottom, which was when I found out he had a girlfriend. As much as it killed me to know that, the day I found out was also, looking back, the best day of my life because I had to chose to accept the "less than" life that being with him for sure would have been, or the "full of possibilities" life that I would eventually have and have now. We all have a bottom. Maybe you have not reached yours yet. And that is ok!