Originally Posted by BumblingAlong

When I told him about how my ex used to berate me for smoking, but then would smoke with me, my brother-in-law commented how controlling that was. Funny - I never once thought of it as controlling; I thought it was just my ex wanting me to quit. But now that I think about it, it WAS his way of trying to control...I was too blind/stupid/naive/codependent to see it then.