Originally Posted by
StarCat 
G thinks once he gets out that everything will be "all better" and go back to the way it was, because he won't be drinking anymore.
He has a lot of behaviors to unlearn (as do I) before anything can be called "healthy" again, and he needs to recognize this in addition to me recognizing this, or it can't work. I don't know if he had the behaviors from before he drank, or if he learned them as coping skills to hide his drinking, but they're ingrained in him now, and they need to come out.
I think this would make a great thread in itself.
So many alcoholics come out of treatment/rehab/prison/jail
and think that the time they just HAD sober
makes them a 'sober' person.
They think they've done their 'pennance' of their alcohol rongs
and that the absence of a substance
somehoe makes them 'good'.
What is shows me is
just how dismally
most 'treatment' programs fail
to instill the need for 100% change
or the 'rehabilitated' world they re-enter
is just a temporary one.