Pink, I am not sure if your husband is still military and if you have Tricare but here is the info on substance abuse, what they cover (yes they cover rehab and various services for families) and contact info:
Treatment for Substance Use Disorders
I am a military wife, overseas and I got help. Excuses are what I gave when I drank and was controlled by the bottle. Look around here and you will see folks with some of the most difficult scenarios finding and celebrating recovery.
You feel hopeless and desperate - that is the nature of an alcoholic and the uncontrollable lifestyle that goes with it. There is no moderating in my experience at all.
I can't say much more without rehashing what has already been given.