Originally Posted by
sailorjohn 
If he is an alcoholic......
If he isn't, would have thought that the first DUI would have been a wake up call, and he wouldn't still be drinking and driving.
Have read this debated endlessly, but I have never met an alcoholic that was able to drink socially consistently, despite all of their best efforts. I have known a fair number that went back out, and were drinking harder than they were before the period of sobriety, usually after a fairly short period of time.
Ironic, MM has as their 4th rule, "Don't drink and drive".
Agreed. My only requirement was that he manage the drinking so it wasn't a problem, I left it up to him to decide the how because real change has to come organically from within, not from a third party.
Unfortunately, he is an alcoholic so his method preserved access to alcohol and he is proving unable or unwilling to do what needs to be done for himself, so that he can be a whole person in a loving marriage.
V