Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. I've been exactly where you are and it sucked out loud. The thing is, you can tell him to do all those things, but what if he doesn't, and chances are, he won't. We cannot control another adult person, we can only control ourselves. We have the right to have the kind of home life we want, but we cannot force someone to do things our way. Sorry if that upsets you, but that's just the way it is.