He doesn't have a spending problem.
My boundaries are that I expect to be informed of his schedule because we are a family and what he does affects everyone. It is easy to interpret that as controlling, but would you seriously just let your spouse disappear for hours on end and not care? My husband is famous for saying he'll be back by 8 and then not coming home until midnight and it's not all drinking related, he just sucks at time management and doesn't think I should care.
Well sorry, we have a small child and a family and I am not a flipping nanny. Whoever I'm married too doesn't just get to do whatever they want.
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