"It's taken a lot of work to discover all this and begin the process of 'unlearning' it."
Another big hurdle that I had to overcome or come to personally understand is where the Bible tells us that the husband is to be the "Head" and the father is to be the "Leader" of the family. I've been waiting for about 40 years for my DDH to become the "Head" and "Leader" of my family. I've come to accept the fact he will never become the "Head" or "Leader" of my family that I need. I've had to re-adjust my train of thinking about this to mean if the husband or father is "Christian" or of Biblical character than they should be the "Head" or "Leader" of the family. However, this doesn't apply with a man whose main focus is alcohol......NOT his wife or his children!