catlovermi

Wow, I think the whole of codependency is explained by your choice of words, here. Those four words are the driver of codependency, IMHO.

I think this is why codies desperately avoid being alone - because to be alone is to have to face this question inside them by themself, with no input from others, and they somehow doubt the answer due to something in their formative past:

Am I loveable?

I think recovery gives us support and tools to build a healthy answer for ourself. Starting with pulling out the negative voices in our heads and taking a good look at them, and their messages.

CLMI