Actually, I do have family locally. My Mom lives with us...but is not in a financial position to help out. It pretty much all falls on me, which makes me quite resentful toward him. I have to make our lives work because I know he won't do his part.
I can't help but thinking about what will happen to him if I make him leave. He has no friends/family locally and would be homeless, and I don't want to see that.
Part of me would like to just toss him on an airplane to the state where his Mom lives, but she said if he ruins things at home with the babies and me, that he should just lose her number because she's through with him.
I just can't bring myself to detach and not think about what will happen to him, which makes me a total enabler.