Happy to see you here Ninja, I have gotten a lot out of your posts in the past, and wondered how you were doing.
My ex rabf is sober 11 months, working hard on his recovery, knows it is a lifelong process. We are not together now, but I am hopeful for the future. I am realistic as well.
Most of all, thanks to Al Anon and SR, I know that I will be happy no matter what. It is a choice I have made. Life is not always perfect, I cannot make it so, I can only take care of me, and this knowledge has freed me.
Best to you, Stay hopeful.