I'm sorry that you are in this situation. However, I beg to differ with you. I was married to Air Force Major. I had to tell his CO (Commanding Officer) as although he 'seemed' to be functioning, alcohol does dull the reflexes and he was putting himself and his personnel in grave danger.
Yes, we eventually divorced. I could not continue to put our children and myself through the mood swings, the rages that started to occur and other various things that come with the progression.
Please read around this site, read the 'stickys' at the top of this forum, ask questions, come and post and vent and rant and ask any questions.
There is great ES&H (Experience, Strength and Hope) on this site from those who have been where you are or are where you are now.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing as we do care very much.
Love and hugs,