Well from what you are saying he may not be using, but he sure isn't in recovery..is all this behavior ok with you if there is no drug use? he may be what people call "white knuckling" it which usually results in relapse eventually.Recovery is about getting rid of all the old "stinkin thinkin" not just stopping the drugs/alcohol. It is admitting there is an addiction, recognizing that there is spiritual and emotional work to be done, then working like your life depends on it..cause it does. I heard someone say once 'you'll know it's recovery when they go to meetings like they're handing out money"