Welcome to the SR family!
I am glad you are here. Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
I am sorry that alcoholic behavior brought you here, and sorry that it made an appearance at your family holiday.
We understand what it feels like to have a loved one addicted to alcohol.
When I first came to SR and Alanon, I learned about the three C's of my loved ones addiction:
I did not Cause it
I could not Control it
I will not Cure it
It is harder than it appears. I was sure I could love my A (alcoholic) into sobriety. I just needed the right tools. I finally learned to detach and let the A take responsibility for their own life and their own addiction.
I now have tools to take better care of the only life I have control over: mine.
I have found lots of encouragement and wisdom in the permanent (sticky) posts at the top of the forum. Here is one of my favorites:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html