I try to take care of myself and my own needs first, but I do struggle with it. her husband is also elderly and the wear and tear on him is showing. She is almost completely bedridden, has to be cared for 24/7 and cannot be left alone. We have home help 2 mornings a week.
Maybe this is partly why the guy I mentioned in my long post dumped me. I really don't have a lot of time and or energy to give to a relationship right now. He actually was draining me and the time I spent with him came out of my time for my own interests. I still think he was a "rat" though to simply go into his cave so to speak without a decent discussion.