I am a recovered drunk. I DO NOT like to be around other drunks. Hell, back when I WAS drunk, I couldn't tolerate anyone "drunker" than ME. I don't feel comfortable around drunks, I spent my whole growing up years around different drunks, and they scared me.
Today, I have made a promise to myself, no more drunks in my life. So now, I get to chose not to attend drunkfests.
Millions of families have the exact celebrations as you described, doesn't make it right. I think it promotes generations of alcoholism by showing little kids, "this is how we do family get togethers". There's a difference between "self righteous" and "right". And I'm RIGHT, damnit. Ha!
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote