Welcome to SR!
Keep posting & reading. I so appreciate reading everyone's posts and learning everyday. Loving someone with alcohol addiction in or out of recovery is not easy. I recently started going to Alanon (though I've deal with alcoholism my whole life with various family members). I am one of those people who resisted Alanon but am now finding it is so helpful in seeing the world differently & working on myself. I hope you find a meeting that works for you.
Big hugs